A Conversation on Confidence

By Abbey Kyhl Faith-Filled Writer. Founder of Women Who Shine + theblueprint™.

I’m just here to take care of the people God has assigned to me. Blessed with what I need. Working hard for what I want.

Confidence, it’s perceived differently by so many.

On our team we have a representative from just about every personality dynamic. How do we survive team meetings you might be wondering? The answer is quite simple: we all have the same core values. We use our different perspectives to learn from each other on a daily basis. Sometimes we all agree. Sometimes we have to “talk it out” over facetime. Sometimes we come to the conclusion that we’re just different and maybe, JUST MAYBE our audience is too. We believe this is our greatest strength and that this is what sets us apart. Today Abbey and I have decided to talk about one of our core traits but approach it from two different perspectives.

The topic on the table? Confidence.

The issue was never the definition of confidence. We both believe that…

  • Real confidence means we don’t need approval from others.
  • Real confidence means we aren’t afraid of silence
  • Real confidence means being honest with ourselves and others.
  • Real confidence means we never shift responsibility.
  • Real confidence means we know who we are.
  • Real confidence means we don’t compare ourselves to others.
  • Real confidence means we see failure as a learning opportunity.
  • Real confidence means we believe in our own talents and abilities.

We wholeheartedly agree on the definition of confidence, we just could not come to the same conclusion that identified the development of confidence. After writing and reading A LOT of words and advice for building confidence there were two things we were certain of: my lists didn’t possess the important steps present on Abbey’s list and her list didn’t embrace the core elements of mine. So we facetimed and after a long conversation, we realized that the foundations of our confidence pyramids were different, inversely different.

Abbey believes confidence is formed on the outside and absorbed inwardly.

I believe confidence is born on the inside and radiated outwardly.

You might be scratching your head and thinking, “well both those could be true,” and we believe so too. This is not an argument on who is right and who is wrong. This is a discussion meant to help this community we love to find a message that speaks to you as individuals. Because, as we have come to continually realize, we can share the same core values but how we work toward adopting certain traits may involve a different path for each of us. So today we are so excited for you to join us for a conversation on confidence. Moving forward you will be introduced to two different perspectives.

My (Morgan) perspective embraces confidence as intertwined with self-worth. I believe that enduring and lasting confidence is born on the inside. I believe confidence is something that, in order to radiate outwardly, has to have a foundation etched in our hearts in the form of recognizing our own self-worth. I believe God is fundamental in this realization and that once we believe in who we are, we are then able to translate that knowledge to “looking the part.”

Abbey’s perspective identifies confidence as the little things we do every day and how those little things affect the world around us. Confidence is adopted when we look the part and feed off of and serve others. Doing these things allows confidence to penetrate the surface and thrive inside of us. Abbey focuses on the idea that “one side builds the other.” Meaning that people around us play an important role in helping us build our own self-confidence.

We’re excited to dive in and would love for you to join in on the conversation. Read Morgan’s perspective here and read Abbey’s perspective here. After reading both perspectives let us know what your thoughts and feelings are.

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